Help a Friend with an Eating Disorder

Sandy Richardson

Eating disorders are unfortunately common in girls, and someone who has anorexia or bulimia can really use a good friend! Learning about the signs and symptoms of eating disorders and knowing how to help could let you lend a hand to a friend at a very scary time. Signs of anorexia include obsessive dieting when not overweight, denial of hunger, eating very little, and rapid or sudden weight loss. Symptoms of bulimia include excessive concern about weight, disappearing after meals, and bingeing (eating extremely large amounts of food) followed by purging (vomiting, using laxatives or diuretics, or over exercise). If you see these signs, or if a friend admits to you that she has an eating disorder there are things you can do to help.

Talk to her about your concerns, remembering that weight and eating aren't the issues; health and functioning are. State what you have seen that concerns you, and give examples. Don't nag, but tell her that you think that the situation should at least be evaluated by a professional. Have patience - if she doesn't want to talk about it, try again later, explaining that you believe that her situation is serious. If your friend is throwing up several times a day, passing out, complaining of chest pain, or talking about suicide, get help from a grown-up immediately.

It has been said that in order to have a friend, you must be a friend. Sometimes being a friend means dealing with tough subjects. It might even mean making her mad. Remember that love sometimes involves pain, so tell your friend how much you care about her. Be loyal, be loving, but put her welfare above your unwillingness to confront her about dangerous behavior.
Contact Remuda Ranch for help 1-800-445-1900 www.remudaranch.com .